GOALS

We live very much in a ‘goal-oriented’ culture. This is beneficial, if any time you take on a goal it expands your sense of who you are and what you are capable of, and if it expands your sense of what is possible in life.

That is the purpose of doing anything in life. That through doing it you are more than when you began it.

However, the danger is this. That you start trying to accomplish goals for the sake of accomplishing goals. That, simply put, you are addicted to the feeling of accomplishment.

And, no doubt about it, it is addictive. Because any time you achieve anything in life, which is greater than what you thought you were capable of, you feel great. You have grown as a person.

Which is all good, unless … the reason why you want to grow as a person is because you are unhappy with who you are right now. That, simply put, you want to be anything other than who you are right now.

You read the papers, and rather than have to go through another day slogging away at your own miserable existence, you want to be this pop star or that footballer or that entrepreneur: the women, the yachts, the fast cars. All the trappings of success. Stuff your own life, that is everything you want.

If this is indeed the case, then all your attempts at ‘growth’ will be nothing of the sort. They will merely be an attempt to escape from your feelings of unhappiness, from your dissatisfaction with life. In doing so, you may well grow … more and more unhappy and dissatisfied with life.

Because, no matter what you accomplish, your sense that something is wrong with you, that you have to be other than who you are, won’t go away.

So, don’t make goals to be someone else or somewhere else. It will always elude you, no matter what you accomplish.

Be present to those moments in your life when you are most fully alive. This will give you a sense of your grandest and highest self. And if you are to have one goal in life it is this: aspire to be your grandest, greatest, most glorious self as often as possible.

© Phillip A. Klein March 2008

Published in: on March 16, 2008 at 8:00 pm  Leave a Comment