FATHERS / FATHERHOOD

The sins of the fathers? How far do you want to go back exactly? Your parents cannot live vicariously through you. And you cannot rectify their mistakes. So let’s just call it quits, and get on the business of living our own lives.

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Within our typical western family structure, power and authority is concentrated in the father. Which is why, as the father, you will experience constant power struggles with your wife and with all of your children. This isn’t necessarily something that happens consciously. But, it is going on all the time, unconsciously.

No one wants to be lorded over. Simple as that.

But plenty enjoy lording it over others. Hence the attraction of fatherhood to many.

But lording it over others is not the true role or the true nature of ‘the father’. The true role and the true nature of ‘the father’, is to set all those within its authority and guidance free. So, that, as soon as possible, they can father – guide and support – themselves.

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Some would say that if we go back far enough and trace the original father, he would be God. Others would say that if we go back far enough and trace the original father, he would be an ape.

God-like and ape-like – thus explains much of human nature: the potential for the divine and the magnificent interspersed with the savage and senseless.


© Phillip A. Klein March 2008

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