Alcohol is both the main form of socialisation in our society and one of its greatest killers. You would think that someone would come up with a better way to socialise.

What? Enjoy the company of other people – Sober???? No way!

Having been to enough bars and clubs in my time, let me tell you, it can be hard to stay sober in that kind of environment. Particularly so, if you go out on your own. Particularly so, if you are not naturally gregarious.

As a society we are taught to fear ‘the other’. Well, if you go to an environment which is full of ‘others’ – such as a bar or a club – you are likely to feel threatened. And, if the cure to that threat is being served behind the bar, mere seconds from you, you would, wouldn’t you?

But going out to bars and clubs sober and on your own can be a great spiritual exercise. There is no better way to confront your fears of other people than spending a few hours in an environment where you may well feel deeply, deeply uncomfortable.

If you can be okay with whatever comes up for you there, you can be okay with anything pretty much.

If you can appreciate it, and be grateful for it, exactly as it is and exactly as it is not, if you can recognise it as a gift, then the world is yours, my son …

Simply put, if you can be exactly the same way with the people there – who may be loud, drunk and obnoxious – as you are with your nearest and dearest friends, then you have won.

More so, as if it goes really, really well, you end up having sex at the end of it! Which isn’t the worst thing in the world that could happen to you.

© Phillip A. Klein March 2008

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